An Open Letter to My Wife

Ashlee Caryn,                                                                                               12/23/2015

I was reading in Genesis 24 yesterday and the more I studied the life of Rebekah in that chapter the more I saw you. I was overwhelmed with thankfulness to God for you in my life. Here are five things about Rebekah in Genesis 24 that stuck out to me and reminded me of you:

  1. She cares for her home

Genesis 24:15 “Before he had finished speaking, Rebekah was coming out with a pitcher on her shoulder.”

She was out during the day grabbing water for her home. She was diligent in her role and made sure there was provision for her family.

You are an excellent wife and mother and your daily acts of service show how much you love and care for Caleb and I. You love us so well with the great sacrifice you make to be at home with him.

  1. She was ready to be a servant, to show kindness, and to be a source of blessing to others

Genesis 24:18-19 “She said, ‘Drink, sir!’ and quickly lowered the pitcher on her hand to give him a drink. When she was through quenching his thirst, she said, ‘I will draw for your camels, too, until they have enough.”

She “quickly” gave Abraham’s servant a drink and met his need. She continued to serve him and it doesn’t appear she gave a second thought. She blessed him with her time and gave what she could with what she had.

God continually shows me his kindness through you, and your servant heart is a blessing to all who know you. Whenever there is a need you are always so quick to act and not think twice (which challenges me!)

  1. She is hospitable and stewards her home/resources to minister to others

Genesis 24:25 “Then she added, ‘we have plenty of straw and fodder and space to spend the night.”

She had “plenty” of straw and fodder, meaning she had been a good steward to have extra. She stored up her resources to minister to whoever God would place in her path. She was ready and willing to give up “space” in her home for a night to meet the needs of her neighbor.

Your gift of hospitality has continually grown and I love your perspective of our home being a place of ministry. You continually look for ways to steward money, time and talents to be a blessing to others.

  1. Sensitive and submissive to God’s will

Genesis 24:58 “So they called Rebekah and asked her, ‘Are you willing to go with this man?’ Her answer was ‘I will go!’

She was so sensitive to God’s leading and direction that overnight she was off to marry Isaac. She didn’t fight or resist but went willingly.

I have watched you lay down your desires and plans for God’s plan willingly. From the birth of our son to the loss of our twins, you continue to look to God to direct you, submitting to His plan for your life, and it is beautiful.

  1. She gives careful thought to the future (prudent and wise)

Genesis 24:65 “and asked the servant, ‘Who is that man over there walking in the field to meet us?’ The servant replied, ‘That is my master.’ She therefore took her veil and covered herself.”

She took notice of what was coming, asked questions, and was ready. She want caught off guard but was prudent and prepared.

You continually look forward to the future and act in wisdom and prudence. You ask great questions and challenge me and my thinking. You dream big and set goals to shoot for the stars. Most importantly you daily devote yourself to the One who you are preparing to spend eternity with.

I am so proud of you and the wife and mother that God is molding you into. I cannot thank God enough for you in my life and pray that He would continue to make you fruitful and multiply you!


Bryan Matthew

A Thankful Heart

These last few weeks have been crazy busy for us, and unfortunately, they are only going to get busier with the holidays now in full swing. I keep asking myself, how is it already December 1? Christmas is in 24 days and we are up to our elbows in holiday parties, family gatherings, and just the hustle and bustle of the Christmas season. So, with all of this business around us, I am thankful that we were able to get away for several days this past week and disconnect.

We spent the last 6 days in Blue Ridge , Georgia with my side of the family for Thanksgiving. Some much needed family time was over due.We were originally hoping Bryan’s parents could join us, but they had already made plans to go to Lawton, Oklahoma to be with Mrs. Shirley’s family for Thanksgiving.

We left last Tuesday at 4:00AM headed to the airport. *Shoutout to Bryan’s dad for kindly driving us there*. Our flight left at 6:00AM, and we didn’t arrive in Blue Ridge until around 2:00. It was better than driving, but still a long trip for a 13 month old, but Caleb did great to be traveling and cooped up for 6+ hours.  I love taking family trips because we always just relax and come away with great memories. We spent our mornings playing with Caleb, drinking coffee as the sun came up, watching the deer, and eating hearty breakfasts. We spent our evenings around the table eating lots of yummy food, making s’mores down at the firepit, watching football, and finished them off with some quality time in the hot tub. We also had an adventure at least once a day. One day we hiked to Marble Falls, one day we took family photos and went into town, we watched the Christmas parade, and went to Mercier Orchards. It was a perfect week away, and I personally needed some disconnection time. As a stay at home mom, I can often misuse my time, spending it on facebook or instagram, or spend hours texting back and forth with friends, and completely miss out on the fun day with my kid. So for me, it was great to have no distractions and just enjoy being with my family.

Here are some fun memories we made:


I am so thankful that the Lord has provided Bryan a job where he has a flexible schedule and can take time away to be with our family. Our time away blessed me tremendously, but it also makes me miss my family that much more, 10 hours away is so FAR! We are now back in Dallas and getting back into the swing of things, and we have a busy December ahead of us.

Caleb’s great aunt Carol is in town visiting, so we will get to spend some time with her and Bryan’s parents this weekend, which we are really looking forward to. We also have Bryan’s work Christmas party, our community Christmas, Watermark’s Equipped Disciple Chili Party, and countless other things this month. Since we spent Thanksgiving with my side of the family, we will be staying here for Christmas to spend time with Bryan’s family. We are both looking forward to starting our own Christmas traditions and spending Christmas day with his parents, eating thanksgiving food over again, watching basketball, and playing with Caleb.

One cool thing I wanted to share that the Lord has done in the last month is provide money for the Hope Mommies retreat I am going on in February. I mentioned Hope Mommies in a previous post about our miscarriage. They are a non-profit for women who have suffered from infant loss. The retreat is $285 and we had been praying that the Lord would provide the funds for me to be able to go. Well, of course he would, He’s God and $285 is nothing to him-he owns everything. And, He knows all of our needs before we even ask them. We had already paid for the retreat when a few days later we get a letter in the mail from the surgery center where I had my D&C performed saying the overcharged us $250. Bryan proceeds to say he is going to call them and get our money back. The very next envelope Bryan opens is from the surgery center with a check for $250. We stood in amazement. The very reason I am going to the Hope Mommies Retreat is because we lost Arden and Nasa, and I had to have the D&C. And they are the very ones paying my way for me to go on this trip. How crazy! Well, we were still $35 short, but the following week, Bryan would open a letter from a client of his with a check for $35 because Bryan had referred him some business. Bryan had forgotten all about that. The $285 taken care of. THANK YOU LORD!! He is so good and kind in all of his ways, and though the loss of our children may not have been our plan; He is establishing our steps and walking us along the best path for our lives, and for that I am grateful.

Also, a little update on Caleb: He is growing so fast. At his one year check up he weighed 19 pounds and was 30 inches long. His favorite foods are bananas, apple sauce, sweet potatoes, blueberries and oatmeal with cinnamon. He is walking all over the place. He loves to talk with you. He can sign: “all done and more”. We are working on “thank you” and “bath”. He enjoys reading, his favorite books right now are “Good Night God” and “My Little Pumpkin”. He is still sleeping through the night like a champ. And he loves to listen to music, dance, and play with his soccer ball.